One of the biggest decisions a couple makes when planning their wedding day timeline is whether or not to have a first look. As a wedding photographer with nine years of experience, I’ve had the privilege of capturing both traditional and first-look moments, and I’ve seen firsthand how each choice impacts the day. There’s no right or wrong decision—only what feels best for you as a couple. So, let’s break it down: the pros and cons of a first look from a photographer’s perspective.
What is a First Look?
A first look is an intimate moment before the ceremony where the couple sees each other for the first time, away from the eyes of guests. It’s a modern alternative to the traditional reveal at the altar and is often a deeply emotional experience.
A Private & Emotional Moment
Wedding days can be overwhelming, and a first look gives you a quiet, intimate space to soak in the moment with just the two of you (and, of course, me capturing it all!). Many couples find this experience calming, helping ease pre-ceremony jitters.
More Time for Photos
Choosing a first look means we can capture couple portraits before the ceremony, giving you more variety in your gallery and ensuring you aren’t rushed during cocktail hour. It also allows us to take bridal party and even family photos ahead of time, freeing up more time to enjoy the reception.
A Genuine Reaction, Up Close
Some grooms worry that seeing their bride before the ceremony might take away from the moment at the altar. In my experience, this isn’t true! A first look creates an authentic, emotional reaction in a private setting, while the ceremony still holds all its magic.
Helps with Timeline Flow
A first look can make the day run smoother. Without it, all formal photos must be squeezed into the time between the ceremony and reception. With a first look, we get a head start, ensuring a stress-free experience.
Eases Nerves
If you’re someone who feels anxious about being the center of attention, a first look can provide comfort. Seeing your partner before the ceremony can bring a sense of peace and excitement, rather than nerves.
Cons of a First Look
Breaks Tradition
If you’ve always dreamed of the classic moment where the doors open and your partner sees you for the first time as you walk down the aisle, skipping a first look might be the way to go.
Requires an Earlier Start
Because we take couple portraits and other formal shots before the ceremony, a first look means starting hair, makeup, and getting ready earlier. If you’re not a morning person, this could be a downside.
Can Feel Less Spontaneous
A first look is planned, while the traditional aisle reveal is naturally timed with the ceremony. If you love the idea of a completely unplanned, emotional reaction in front of loved ones, waiting until the ceremony might be a better choice.
Lighting Considerations
Depending on your wedding schedule, a first look might take place earlier in the day when lighting is harsher. While I always find the best spots for gorgeous photos, golden hour portraits after the ceremony can be more flattering.
So, What’s Right for You?
If you want a private, emotional moment and a relaxed timeline, a first look could be perfect. If you love tradition and the excitement of seeing each other at the altar, skipping the first look might be the way to go. Either way, I’ll be there to capture the raw, beautiful emotions of your day!
Still unsure? Let’s chat! I love helping couples create a wedding day timeline that feels right for them, ensuring you get the dreamiest photos while fully enjoying your celebration.